petition to make young adult authors stop writing about girls whose lives change when they meet a boy
When she saw him time slowed to a stop. He was so perfect and she knew her life would never be the same because she had finally found him. The one. The first boy she would ever kill.
if you misgender someone and they become angry with you do not make it about you
stop and realize that they are most likely less frustrated with YOU misgendering them and more frustrated that is KEEP HAPPENING
do not try and justify that you misgendered them
apologize (not profusely) and promise that you will try harder to not misgender them
are there any 2 words that set off more warning bells than “trans lesbian”?
PLEASE WATCH THIS VIDEO THIS IS THE PINNACLE OF MY EXISTENCE I CAN NOW DIE SINCE THIS HAS BEEN CREATED
So Imma go to bed now, but you can still send me links and advice and stuff. Guidelines for that: I’m not looking for fandom merch/slogan tees, overly feminine clothing, overly masculine clothing, tight clothes (cause I really don’t wanna show off my figure), or “androgynous” clothing that’s really just dude clothes on FAAB people.
Yeah, I’ve been meaning to ask the rents, but I’m worried about how they’ll respond. And also because I have a significant amount of gluteus (like, uncommonly so for a white FAAB person), so I’m worried they won’t fit.
And sorry, but I hate shorts. And loose bottoms. Cause I just look stupid in shorts and loose bottoms end up balancing on my butt (which I dislike).
- I know I want to buy clothes
- I know how to procure clothes online using money
- shopping in the women’s section makes me dysphoric
- shopping in the men’s/boys’ sections makes me feel uncomfortable and dysphoric, but less dysphoric than the women’s
- nothing fits in the girls’ section cause I’m grownup-sized
- I have severe doubt in my taste since the only people to think anything but “oh you OBVIOUSLY don’t care about fashion! like, you don’t even try!” are my parents (whose taste in anything I do not trust)
- then I freak out
I’m… Kinda unsure about what it is that I want. But basically, my entire wardrobe is crap and I want some things that aren’t.
And yeah, the only reason I can stand certain shirt tags is desensitization, I can’t wear anything that touches a certain part of my neck, and women’s pants and underwear to this day cause me a great deal of pain. So I feel you.
It’s the finding of the clothes. Can’t buy things and later wear them if I can’t find any decent clothes.
Basically, clothes shopping while genderqueer and having sensory processing problems is a piece of shit. All the departments are uncomfortable, my body doesn’t feel right on multiple levels, and I have to worry about stuff that most clothing stores would never consider.
Okay, people, the problem here, let me repeat, IS NOT PURCHASING. I have bought stuff online. It’s not a complicated process. Add to cart, checkout, credit/debit/gift card or Paypal (cause really those are my options), enter destination, confirm, and wait for the mail.